Being real means being true to your own beliefs, thoughts and opinions and not the beliefs, thoughts and opinions of others.
Being real means telling 'your truth' to yourself rather than mentally parroting the truth of others. 'Your truth' will always make you feel good while the truth of others will not. If 'your truth' doesn't make you feel good, you are not telling your truth to yourself, you are lying to yourself. (For more in-depth information about lying to ourselves, click here.)
Being real means you don't feel bad because of other people's troubles and you don't do things for other people comes from feeling bad about their situation .What you do feel about their situation is love for them. And what you do see is if they were powerful enough to create the troubles they have by the choices they made, then they are powerful enough to make the choices they need to make to solve their problems for themselves.
When you believe people can't solve their own problems, you weakens them. Thinking people aren't capable of solving their own problems is an ego trip. An ego trip most commonly taken by parents whose children are having troubles. Parents take this ego trip out of guilt and blaming themselves for the troubles their children have.
If there is something you can do for people having troubles (family members, friends, strangers) coming from a 'feeling good state of mind' because you genuinely want to do it, and guilt is not part of the equation, by all means do it.
Being real means you do not allow yourself to get dragged into other people's soap operas. You no longer accept the false belief that you must feel bad for others when others feed bad. Feeling bad empowers no one, especially yourself.
Being real means you tell your ugly truth to yourself (things that upset you, piss you off or make you angry) as a way of releasing your 'ugly truth' from your mind so you can be as happy and carefree as you want to be.
Being real means admitting 'when you don't know what to do next' and instead of feeling bad about not knowing what to do next, you relax your mind instead and go play. As my friend Frederick Zappone says, 'In the spirit of play, life is easy'.
Being real means you accept the fact that all thoughts that make you feel good are from God (by whatever name you call God *) and the rest are not.
* Organizing Intelligence of the Universe, Infinite Mind, Universal Intelligence, etc)
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Get the Job You Want By Be-ing REAL in the Interview
The article you are about to read was written by my friend Frederick Zappone. It is one of the best examples of what happens when you are willing to 'get real' in a job interview, - Jonathan
THE AMAZING JOB INTERVIEW
© 2008 By Frederick Zappone All Rights Reserved
HAS THIS EVER HAPPENED TO YOU?
You go for a job interview. You become nervous and instead of being yourself, you try to be the person they want you to be for the position they have open. In other words, instead of being yourself you depress yourself.
Several years ago, I went for an interview and was about to play the old game of "pretending" to be the person they wanted me to be rather than being myself. I had done it many times before. This time I decided not to do it even though I was terrified that if they 'knew" who I really was they would never hire me.
You see, I am too straightforward and direct. I am irreverent and passionate. Sometimes I'm too loud and other times I talk too much. I have a outrageous sense of humor that many people do not understand. My personality is a bit over the top for many companies I know but this time I was going to be myself whether I got the job or not. This was hard to do because I desperately needed the job and I was down to my last three hundred bucks.
Nevertheless, when I met the CEO who was hiring for the position, the very first thing I told him is that I didn't do interviews well. His eyes glazed over and almost rolled to the back of his head. I knew what he was thinking but I knew what I was doing, I was being myself.....and after I gave him time to settle back down...I said to him:
"I don't do interviews well, you see, because I am employed all of the time and have very little time to practice playing dumb interview games."
He knew what I was talking about and roared with laughter and that set me free to show up as the full blown ME..... I spoke too loud and talked too much, I was straightforward and direct and I didn't back down from being me. I shared my strange sense of humor with him that made his eyes glaze over, once again, but you know what?
When all was said and done, out of the 10 finalists for the vice-president position I was the one he hired for the job despite the fact the other nine finalists were more qualified for the job.
The CEO told me later he hired me because he liked my style and my ability to be myself. He knew he could trust me more than most of the people, in his company, who were always kissing up to him. He found my honesty refreshing and sincere, something the other nine people never revealed to him.
It was a best job I ever had because I was hired into the job being myself and I was able to be myself every single day on that job. The best part is, I made more money on that job than any job that I had before when I was "pretending" to be something I was not!
Footnote:
I resigned my vice-president position in 1998. It wasn't the logical thing to do because the money was excellent and the perks were out of this world. However, I did resigned after receiving a life changing letter (see below) from a close friend of mine.
"Few people are brave enough to follow their hearts. It’s all too easy to opt for the security of a 9-to-5 job with good benefits and tell that voice within to shut up. Sadly, it seems that shutting up that voice tends to shut up some vital creative, spiritual element inside of us that becomes trapped, alone in the dark, able only to exert strange longings within us. However, for a fortunate few, the strange longings become too strong to ignore and the prisoner is released"
My friend's letter gave me goose bumps because it rang so powerfully true for me. My desire to inspire other people through my writings with no guarantee of making a dollar was stronger for me than all the guarantees and all the money in the world and so I resigned my vice president position and haven't looked back since.
THE AMAZING JOB INTERVIEW
© 2008 By Frederick Zappone All Rights Reserved
HAS THIS EVER HAPPENED TO YOU?
You go for a job interview. You become nervous and instead of being yourself, you try to be the person they want you to be for the position they have open. In other words, instead of being yourself you depress yourself.
Several years ago, I went for an interview and was about to play the old game of "pretending" to be the person they wanted me to be rather than being myself. I had done it many times before. This time I decided not to do it even though I was terrified that if they 'knew" who I really was they would never hire me.
You see, I am too straightforward and direct. I am irreverent and passionate. Sometimes I'm too loud and other times I talk too much. I have a outrageous sense of humor that many people do not understand. My personality is a bit over the top for many companies I know but this time I was going to be myself whether I got the job or not. This was hard to do because I desperately needed the job and I was down to my last three hundred bucks.
Nevertheless, when I met the CEO who was hiring for the position, the very first thing I told him is that I didn't do interviews well. His eyes glazed over and almost rolled to the back of his head. I knew what he was thinking but I knew what I was doing, I was being myself.....and after I gave him time to settle back down...I said to him:
"I don't do interviews well, you see, because I am employed all of the time and have very little time to practice playing dumb interview games."
He knew what I was talking about and roared with laughter and that set me free to show up as the full blown ME..... I spoke too loud and talked too much, I was straightforward and direct and I didn't back down from being me. I shared my strange sense of humor with him that made his eyes glaze over, once again, but you know what?
When all was said and done, out of the 10 finalists for the vice-president position I was the one he hired for the job despite the fact the other nine finalists were more qualified for the job.
The CEO told me later he hired me because he liked my style and my ability to be myself. He knew he could trust me more than most of the people, in his company, who were always kissing up to him. He found my honesty refreshing and sincere, something the other nine people never revealed to him.
It was a best job I ever had because I was hired into the job being myself and I was able to be myself every single day on that job. The best part is, I made more money on that job than any job that I had before when I was "pretending" to be something I was not!
Footnote:
I resigned my vice-president position in 1998. It wasn't the logical thing to do because the money was excellent and the perks were out of this world. However, I did resigned after receiving a life changing letter (see below) from a close friend of mine.
"Few people are brave enough to follow their hearts. It’s all too easy to opt for the security of a 9-to-5 job with good benefits and tell that voice within to shut up. Sadly, it seems that shutting up that voice tends to shut up some vital creative, spiritual element inside of us that becomes trapped, alone in the dark, able only to exert strange longings within us. However, for a fortunate few, the strange longings become too strong to ignore and the prisoner is released"
My friend's letter gave me goose bumps because it rang so powerfully true for me. My desire to inspire other people through my writings with no guarantee of making a dollar was stronger for me than all the guarantees and all the money in the world and so I resigned my vice president position and haven't looked back since.
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