Be-ing REAL Defined

Being real means being true to your own beliefs, thoughts and opinions and not the beliefs, thoughts and opinions of others.

Being real means telling 'your truth' to yourself rather than mentally parroting the truth of others. 'Your truth' will always make you feel good while the truth of others will not. If  'your truth' doesn't make you feel good, you are not telling your truth to yourself, you are lying to yourself. (For more in-depth information about lying to ourselves, click here.)

Being real means you don't feel bad because of other people's troubles and you don't do things for other people comes from feeling bad about their situation .What you do feel about their situation is love for them. And what you do see is if they were powerful enough to create the troubles they have by the choices they made, then they are powerful enough to make the choices they need to make to solve their problems for themselves.

When you believe people can't solve their own problems, you weakens them. Thinking people aren't capable of solving their own problems is an ego trip. An ego trip most commonly taken by parents whose children are having troubles. Parents take this ego trip out of guilt and blaming themselves for the troubles their children have.

If there is something you can do for people having troubles (family members, friends, strangers) coming from a 'feeling good state of mind' because you genuinely want to do it, and guilt is not part of the equation, by all means do it.

Being real means you do not allow yourself to get dragged into other people's soap operas. You no longer accept the false belief that you must feel bad for others when others feed bad. Feeling bad empowers no one, especially yourself.

Being real means you tell your ugly truth to yourself (things that upset you, piss you off or make you angry) as a way of releasing your 'ugly truth' from your mind so you can be as happy and carefree as you want to be.

Being real means admitting 'when you don't know what to do next' and instead of feeling bad about not knowing what to do next, you relax your mind instead and go play. As my friend Frederick Zappone says, 'In the spirit of play, life is easy'.

Being real means you accept the fact that all thoughts that make you feel good are from God (by whatever name you call God *) and the rest are not.

* Organizing Intelligence of the Universe, Infinite Mind, Universal Intelligence, etc)


SHARING : Share with me in the comment section when you know you are be-ing real and when you are not. You can post your comments anonymously if you wish.


 

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Ex-Catholic - Public Confessor

There is something about growing up Catholic that makes me want to publicly confess every thought I think. I'm sure it has something to do with the brainwashing I received as a child about going to confession and not withholding even the slightest thought I might consider a sin.  As a result of growing up catholic and leaving the church, because too many of their beliefs were impossible for me to accept, I'm still influenced by there stinkin' thinkin' in ways that makes me feel guilty when there is nothing I should feel guilty about.

In order for my guilt about leaving the church not to eat at me any more than it does, I have chosen to become a public confessor. There is something about confessing my catholic sins publicly that lifts the guilt right off my shoulders. I am using this blog to publicly confess everything about my life and everything I know about life, most of which is okay with me but is contrary to the teaching of the Catholic Church.

Some of the stuff you read here will enlighten you or entertain you.  Some of  what I share with you may stun and shock you but not too much.. I haven't committed any of the really big sins in life  such as stealing, murdering, raping, plundering, etc. Oh but my little sins, like thinking very differently than the catholic church, sometimes does eat me alive.

Updated 5 hours later..

I am feeling guilty for posting this. I should delete it now. No don't delete it.
Yes, delete it, No! Yes! No! Yes! Hell no, I am not going to delete it.
This is my story and I am sticking to it.

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Stop lying to yourself and you will begin eliminating scarcity from your life now

Telling 'your truth' to yourself will eliminate lack and scarcity from your life. Lying to yourself will increase the amount of lack and scarcity you experience in your life in regards to such things as money, love or good health. Lying to yourself will make you feel worried, anxious or depressed.  Telling 'your truth' to yourself will make you feel lighter, brighter and carefree. That's how you can tell the difference in regards to whether you are lying to yourself or telling yourself what is true for you. The key to this truth-telling process is telling 'your truth' to yourself while not giving a shit what is true for other people..



 
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Why lying to ourselves about anything makes us feel sick or depressed

I just had this realization that  when I am feeling negative in any way, I am lying to myself about something.  Out of the blue I realized that I can't feel bad when I am telling myself  my truth. And when I am lying to myself, or suppressing my truth, I get depressed. I not only get depressed but if I lie to myself for a prolonged period of time I become physically sick. The realization about what lying does to me and what telling myself the truth does for me led me to write this self-help insight.

Lying to myself makes me feel heavy, somber and depressed. Telling my truth to myself makes me feel lighter, brighter and carefree. That's how I can tell the difference when I am lying to myself  versus when I am telling my truth to myself.

Here is my truth about blogging today.  I blog to have an outlet for my thoughts and feelings.  Blogging is self-help therapy for me. Blogging help me sort out my thoughts and get clear about what I believe and what is really true for me regardless of what is true for other people.

Here are my lies about blogging before today.  I told myself that I was blogging to become a famous writer. I was blogging to make money and become rich. I was blogging to help people.  Those statements are all lies, lies I really believed. I believed those lies as my truth until blogging for those reasons started causing me a lot of pain and causing me to experience frustration and depression. The truth be told, I don't give a shit about being a famous writer, fame is overrated. And I don't want to be rich if the process of being rich makes me unhappy. And finally, helping other people is all bullshit. The only person I can truly help in myself... In most cases, other people don't want my help, so why waste my time writing a blog and giving self-help advice when no one asked for it.

I will admit, I get a kick out of people reading my stuff and leave me flattering comments. And I am thrilled when someone leave an unexpected donation in support of my blogging efforts but donations are so few and so far between that it makes me wonder why I have a donation button on my blog at all.

As I learned a long time ago, the truth is not always pretty, sometimes it can be downright ugly. This could be one of those times for you.

I don't know whether you will be back and read anything else I write but let's be clear, I am writing this  blog for the sole purpose of me getting clear about my truths and lies so I can feel better about myself.

In truth, I don't give a shit about you or what you get out of my writings because it is not possible for me to give a shit about people I don't know and I don't know you...... unless you choose to leave a comment and tell me something about yourself and then I will care about you.....

One final thought.  Going back over what I wrote to to make sure this post is free of grammar and typo errors, as a way of trying to impress you. is a royal pain in the ass for me.  And in spite of my best efforts to make this piece of writing free of errors, I am sure some anal retentive perfectionist will discover I missed something and will want to bring it to my attention. If it is you, don't bother!  Now, that my truth.